The world and everyone in it has an opinion for you. What you should think, how you should act, what you should wear, how you should spend your time, how you should spend your money, and even what you should eat!
There is no shortage of opinions.
Maybe it’s the not-so-subtle voice of social media telling you what your life should look like. Basically, it should be fancier by now. Your home remodeled, your car upgraded. Your clothes more in fashion and your vacations less of a staycation. Let’s be real; our eyes only need one second to feast on someone’s most beautiful moment to hear the lie that our life is full of lackluster ones. What am I doing wrong, we might silently wonder.
Maybe it’s an expert opinion- or someone we have deemed an expert! A doctor, a friend’s success tip, or even the latest trend. The popular workout regime or the most recent diet research. The top-selling self-help book or the best therapist in town. Yoga, but don’t over-stretch. Cardio, but low impact. The more vegetables the better; no carbs, no fat; wait, all fat no vegetables. No vegetables? Can that be right? More fish, but please watch the mercury levels in your fish. Definitely no tuna. Never any tuna. Oy vey.
Or, perhaps, it’s the all too familiar voice of your past begging for attention. I should be over this by now. This should not bother me anymore. How are we still dealing with this issue? Slowly but surely, the whispers of hopelessness creep in to make themselves at home; maybe this is as good as it gets, we fear.
Our wounds, pain, and disappointments often nag until we dive into the depths of performance or attempt to distract from the sense of helplessness. Either way, it is easy to slip into trying to be our own protector, provider, and hero, when in pain.
The rubber really hits the road when our very own good and holy desires seem destined for roadblocks. A spouse, children, a ministry, meaningful community, physical health, financial freedom, peace and rest in the Lord. These are beautiful desires- ones I believe that God planted in us and desires to take root. Yet, all too often the fruit we harvest doesn’t seem to line up with the very desires we trace back to Him. Why? How? When? We start to question.
There is no shortage of thoughts, feelings, or opinions in any of these areas! As all the thoughts and all the feelings bubble to the surface, it is easy to slip into a place of questioning, followed by urgent action.
When we are in pain, we want a remedy.
When we see a problem, we look for a solution.
When we hurt, we want anything to ameliorate the issue.
Basically, we want control!
All too often, in the swirl of pain and confusion, we default to action. Sort of the emotional equivalent of throwing everything up against the wall and seeing what sticks. We work harder for that promotion, in hopes of finally feeling accomplished. We book that Summer trip, in search of peace and relaxation. We feverishly exercise to lose those extra pounds, in an attempt to finally feel confident. We run to a counselor or mentor, for the love- grasping for anyone who can help!
And, you know what?
These actions might hold merit. At times, they all likely do. However, I’m finally learning that my very best problem-solving and most excellent efforts fall short. You see, while they are probably good thoughts, the thing that truly matters in these moments is what He is saying. His perspective on the issue. How He sees our situation.
Technically, you might need to lose a few pounds. But, how does He see that? What is His solution for the way to improve your health?
It might be a fact that you need more financial margin. But, what are His thoughts on the issue? What is Heaven’s solution to this problem?
I am almost always pro-counseling. I love for self-help books. Even still, I know just enough to know there is only one Healer. There is only one Hero in this story. The issue isn’t if He wants restoration for you, it’s identifying His divine path for your healing journey.
How do you see this?
I notice myself muttering this phrase aloud, over and over again. When I reach the end of my rope- aware that my very best reasoning, research, and efforts all fall short of His’. In the rush of opinions and suggestions, what I need most is to know His' perspective on my situation. His route, His solution, and His perspective often surprise me.
How many times in the Bible does God take care of a problem in the most unexpected of ways?
Remember that time Jesus spit in a man’s eyes to heal them?
Or, God gave King Jehoshaphat the battle strategy of praise? Not fighting, or weaponry, or military tactics; but worship?!
Or, let’s take it all the way home. God chose to send Jesus, the King who Israel eagerly awaited and would change the entire world, as a baby. A child! His entrance was as a helpless infant to unassuming parents.
Whether or not we like it, God’s ways are often not like ours! What He sees isn’t the same as what we see! Hence, our absolute need for His perspective.
You see, more than the latest and greatest trend, more than healthy rhythms, even more than the cold hard facts of life- I need to know how He sees my situation. I need to know His perspective so that I can access His solution.
I might feel hopeless, grief, and pain. But, if He sees this as the greatest setup for breakthrough, perhaps I’d feel differently.
I might struggle with comparison, but if He sees these circumstances as the absolute best for me, perhaps lining up with His view would offer the freedom that even a change in circumstances could not.
I might be beyond tired of waiting for that good and holy desire, but if He truly has the best timeline planned for my story, perhaps I can learn to rest in His flow instead of bemoaning mine.
I’m learning how to shift my prayers. How do you see this? We all (me and the Lord, that is), know my perspective. Take me higher. I need to see as you see. I need the peace that passes understanding. The world, my phone, my friends, and my desires, have opinions. There is no shortage of suggestions and strategies. But, I’m coming to you, because more than anything I need to know how you see this. Lord, open my eyes and ears to glimpse Heaven’s perspective.
As trite as it sounds, He is in the details. He knows the best way for you to improve your health, to restore your soul, and to grow in intimacy with Him. He nudges and draws you; He consistently woos. Maybe today, instead of strife and listening to all the opinions coming your way, instead of turning to action just to stay busy- stop and simply ask Him:
Lord, How do you see this?
His perspective unlocks healing and illuminates our next best step. Always. So, today, give it a whirl! Exhale the prayer with me: Lord, how do you see this?
P.S. For more thoughts on His Perspective checkout this post!